Kur sheh pamjet e atentatit t\u00eb d\u00ebshtuar n\u00eb Elbasan, t\u00eb tmerron menj\u00ebher\u00eb ideja se diku n\u00eb kafenen\u00eb ku ulemi p\u00ebr pak minuta \u00e7lodhje e p\u00ebr t\u00eb pir\u00eb nj\u00eb kafe, mes klient\u00ebve mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb njeri i armatosur, q\u00eb pret me qet\u00ebsi momentin e p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb vrar\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n
Por, p\u00ebrtej vet\u00eb aktit kriminal, ka di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb ato pamje q\u00eb t\u00eb trondit edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb, ajo q\u00eb ndodh p\u00ebrreth.
\nVe\u00e7an\u00ebrisht gruaja q\u00eb ndodhet n\u00eb tavolin\u00eb me autorin. Nga pamjet e kamerave t\u00eb siguris\u00eb duket se ajo nuk shfaq ndonj\u00eb reagim alarmi n\u00eb momentin kur burri t\u00ebrheq k\u00ebmb\u00ebz\u00ebn e arm\u00ebs n\u00eb kok\u00ebn e tjetrit. M\u00eb pas vijon t\u00eb sillet me nj\u00eb qet\u00ebsi q\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00eb pa fjal\u00eb dhe madje paguan edhe fatur\u00ebn.<\/p>\n
Nga video nuk mund t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb dinte ajo, \u00e7far\u00eb kishte d\u00ebgjuar apo n\u00ebse ishte n\u00eb dijeni t\u00eb planit. Por qet\u00ebsia e saj dhe m\u00ebnyra se si vijon t\u00eb sillet n\u00eb raport me veprimet e burrit t\u00eb trondit.
\nGrat\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb rol t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri, jo sepse jan\u00eb domosdoshm\u00ebrisht m\u00eb t\u00eb brishta apo m\u00eb pak t\u00eb prirura ndaj dhun\u00ebs, por sepse shpesh kan\u00eb nj\u00eb ndikim t\u00eb fort\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si nd\u00ebrtohen marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet, si menaxhohen konfliktet dhe si vendosen kufijt\u00eb moral\u00eb brenda familjes dhe komunitetit. Ky rol b\u00ebhet edhe m\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm kur p\u00ebrball\u00eb kemi dhun\u00ebn.<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb grua apo nj\u00eb burr\u00eb n\u00eb ato kushte nuk duhet par\u00eb automatikisht si bashk\u00ebfajtore, sepse pamjet e nj\u00eb kamere nuk na tregojn\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb dinte apo \u00e7far\u00eb p\u00ebrjetonte. Por shoq\u00ebria ka nevoj\u00eb q\u00eb grat\u00eb, ashtu si burrat, t\u00eb jen\u00eb nj\u00eb forc\u00eb q\u00eb e zbut konfliktin, e refuzon dhun\u00ebn dhe nuk e pranon arm\u00ebn si di\u00e7ka normale. \u00c7do njeri, pavar\u00ebsisht gjinis\u00eb, p\u00ebrball\u00eb nj\u00eb krimi duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb kufi moral q\u00eb i thot\u00eb \u201cKjo nuk mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb para meje dhe un\u00eb t\u00eb sillem sikur nuk po ndodh\u201d.<\/p>\n
Dhe pastaj jan\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt\u2026 njer\u00ebzit n\u00eb tavolina. Disa q\u00eb nuk l\u00ebvizin. Disa q\u00eb ngrihen n\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00eb dhe shohin me kureshtje \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh. Nj\u00eb sken\u00eb q\u00eb, n\u00eb vend t\u00eb panikut dhe reagimit t\u00eb menj\u00ebhersh\u00ebm, duket sikur prodhon fillimisht habi dhe kureshtje.<\/p>\n
Sigurisht, reagimi psikologjik i njer\u00ebzve p\u00ebrball\u00eb nj\u00eb ngjarjeje t\u00eb papritur dhe t\u00eb dhunshme \u00ebsht\u00eb i ndrysh\u00ebm. Disa mund t\u00eb ngrijn\u00eb, disa mund t\u00eb mos kuptojn\u00eb menj\u00ebher\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh, nd\u00ebrsa t\u00eb tjer\u00eb mund t\u00eb reagojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm pasi rreziku t\u00eb jet\u00eb larguar.<\/p>\n
Por ajo pamje ngre nj\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim t\u00eb madh.\u00a0A jemi m\u00ebsuar aq shum\u00eb me dhun\u00ebn sa ajo nuk na trondit m\u00eb si\u00e7 duhet? Jemi m\u00ebsuar me arm\u00ebt, me atentatet, me lajmet p\u00ebr vrasje, me konfliktet q\u00eb p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb me plumba, sa rrezikojm\u00eb t\u00eb humbasim ndjeshm\u00ebrin\u00eb ndaj tyre. Vrasja po humbet pak nga pak efektin e r\u00ebnd\u00eb dhe po kthehet n\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr ngjarje t\u00eb kronik\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e frikshme.<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb nga treguesit e kultur\u00ebs s\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebrie \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra se si ajo reagon p\u00ebrball\u00eb dhun\u00ebs. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm numri i krimeve q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb na shqet\u00ebsoj\u00eb, por edhe m\u00ebnyra se si njer\u00ebzit reagojn\u00eb kur krimi ndodh para syve t\u00eb tyre. Sepse kur dhuna fillon t\u00eb mos na trondis\u00eb m\u00eb, problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb se po shnd\u00ebrrohemi n\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb po m\u00ebsohet me vrasjen.<\/p>\n
Nuk dua t\u00eb besoj se jemi b\u00ebr\u00eb kaq t\u00eb ftoht\u00eb. Nuk dua t\u00eb besoj se kemi arritur n\u00eb pik\u00ebn ku arma n\u00eb dor\u00ebn e nj\u00eb njeriu nuk na b\u00ebn t\u00eb ngrihemi nga karrigia. Ku nj\u00eb e sht\u00ebn\u00eb nuk na b\u00ebn t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb se dikush mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb humbas\u00eb jet\u00ebn.<\/p>\n
Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje e humbjes s\u00eb ndjeshm\u00ebris\u00eb njer\u00ebzore dhe ndoshta kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb kriza jon\u00eb m\u00eb e madhe. Jo vet\u00ebm se ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb vrasin. Por se po rrezikojm\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhemi nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb m\u00ebsohet me vrasjen. Nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb m\u00ebsohet me t\u00eb keqen, nj\u00eb dit\u00eb mund t\u00eb mos trembet m\u00eb.
\nAty nis r\u00ebnia e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Kur sheh pamjet e atentatit t\u00eb d\u00ebshtuar n\u00eb Elbasan, t\u00eb tmerron menj\u00ebher\u00eb ideja se diku n\u00eb kafenen\u00eb ku ulemi p\u00ebr pak minuta \u00e7lodhje e p\u00ebr t\u00eb pir\u00eb nj\u00eb kafe, mes klient\u00ebve mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb njeri i armatosur, q\u00eb pret me qet\u00ebsi momentin e p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb vrar\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. Por, p\u00ebrtej vet\u00eb aktit kriminal, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":1857,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[60,54],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1856","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-analiza","category-kronike"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1856","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1856"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1856\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1858,"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1856\/revisions\/1858"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1857"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1856"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1856"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.news24.al\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1856"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}